默冥奇探
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2009/06/28
Times flies...
Time flies...years after years and of course days goes faster and as usual, time won't wait...as stated by King Solomon, everything will have their time, time of birth and time of death, but we have the freedom to choose where we want to go, waht we want to do and who we want to be with, but each of us need to take responsibilities on waht we planted or whatever we chosen...
2009/06/22
Distance...
Physical distance, such as the time or distance that we need to travel to reached certain destination. There are another distance that we will look in, the distance between two hearts. There was a old folks say: "The longest distance is even i'm close to you side by side but you didn't notice my existance..." well i guess you heard the song before, but i forgot the title already, im just ' borrow' it for a while as a refference...hahaha...
During study time, many broke up because of physical distance that tear them a part from one another, and individually they look for other chance and let it to slip into their relationship, it end up broking up with one and starting another with newly met one...its kinda fragile. But how can we hold those relationship even tough the physical distance are so far away?! well, we look in some facts that might help to maintain it. Trust, Communication and Understanding is very important. We need trust to diminish the influence of negative fantasy of the other half, we need to communicate to one another in order to know their well-being and finally we need to understand each other likes and dislikes, love and hate and the way they response to certain sensitive matters...
I guess the second part are easy to understand, so we will look more on the other two facts. First we look at the Understanding parts. well if we know one don't like certain things or behavior for sure we won't do those things and behavior in front of them, its good; but is it enough?not just in front of them, but Always no matter who we met or what we doing or wherever we are we MUST NOT do things that they don like or even hates. In order to be a understandable by others we need to understand others first. After we understand others, we must have action to support and prove that we understand someone, there are some ways: we avoid and won't do anything that sensitive enough to bring up arguements or even worsen things, we shall not try to cross the boundary even for once, no way.
The second fact that we can look into is trust. Before we trust others we need prove from those we want to put our trust on to show the why we should trust them. Its not only the matter of talking or oral promises, but we NEED to realitily implement and do what we promised and said. A single broken promise might left a deep scar in an on-going relationship...
During study time, many broke up because of physical distance that tear them a part from one another, and individually they look for other chance and let it to slip into their relationship, it end up broking up with one and starting another with newly met one...its kinda fragile. But how can we hold those relationship even tough the physical distance are so far away?! well, we look in some facts that might help to maintain it. Trust, Communication and Understanding is very important. We need trust to diminish the influence of negative fantasy of the other half, we need to communicate to one another in order to know their well-being and finally we need to understand each other likes and dislikes, love and hate and the way they response to certain sensitive matters...
I guess the second part are easy to understand, so we will look more on the other two facts. First we look at the Understanding parts. well if we know one don't like certain things or behavior for sure we won't do those things and behavior in front of them, its good; but is it enough?not just in front of them, but Always no matter who we met or what we doing or wherever we are we MUST NOT do things that they don like or even hates. In order to be a understandable by others we need to understand others first. After we understand others, we must have action to support and prove that we understand someone, there are some ways: we avoid and won't do anything that sensitive enough to bring up arguements or even worsen things, we shall not try to cross the boundary even for once, no way.
The second fact that we can look into is trust. Before we trust others we need prove from those we want to put our trust on to show the why we should trust them. Its not only the matter of talking or oral promises, but we NEED to realitily implement and do what we promised and said. A single broken promise might left a deep scar in an on-going relationship...
Trust...
"trust" only have 5 alphabets, but it do mean alot no matter in what field it related: trust to friend, trust to business partner, trust to teacher, trust to student, trust to mate and so on...
Trust play a big role in relatiobship broadly. We are imperfect to see through all things, and we don't want to wrongly put our trust on; as a matter of fact, its consequences are severe and might be unacceptable by most of the victim, and the phrases " Why this kind of things happen...?", "Why me...?!" it won't help when we are the last one to know about the truth. When we look and read newspaper, crimes happened nowaday are mostly caused of we mistrust those we think we can rely or trust wholeheartedly; In vise versa, we need to trust someone of others in order to have a security feeling and to gain help from others...How can we do so and avoid from mistakenly put trust on those we should't trust on. Well there are some way that we might can use.
First, let the time to prove someone is worthy or not. Time always a great tool to determine the true self of others. Some folks said: " True love can withstand the challenge of times..." Its true but most of us are not willing to wait, so they end up making unwise decision that at the end they hurt themselves and others that concern about them. Now another question raised:" How long that we need to observe to see weather a person is worth our trust??" The question is very subjective but there are one truthful answer to it:"The time when you see all their weaknesses and good qualities and yet continue to observe changes that happen to him or she from time to time, and let the relationship to go very slowly to buy some times for the security and observation..."
Its quite a ong answer but it woth for us to implement it, it might take years to truly understand a person but its worth it when compare to the consequences that might happen if we mistakenly put our trust to someone wicked.
Trust play a big role in relatiobship broadly. We are imperfect to see through all things, and we don't want to wrongly put our trust on; as a matter of fact, its consequences are severe and might be unacceptable by most of the victim, and the phrases " Why this kind of things happen...?", "Why me...?!" it won't help when we are the last one to know about the truth. When we look and read newspaper, crimes happened nowaday are mostly caused of we mistrust those we think we can rely or trust wholeheartedly; In vise versa, we need to trust someone of others in order to have a security feeling and to gain help from others...How can we do so and avoid from mistakenly put trust on those we should't trust on. Well there are some way that we might can use.
First, let the time to prove someone is worthy or not. Time always a great tool to determine the true self of others. Some folks said: " True love can withstand the challenge of times..." Its true but most of us are not willing to wait, so they end up making unwise decision that at the end they hurt themselves and others that concern about them. Now another question raised:" How long that we need to observe to see weather a person is worth our trust??" The question is very subjective but there are one truthful answer to it:"The time when you see all their weaknesses and good qualities and yet continue to observe changes that happen to him or she from time to time, and let the relationship to go very slowly to buy some times for the security and observation..."
Its quite a ong answer but it woth for us to implement it, it might take years to truly understand a person but its worth it when compare to the consequences that might happen if we mistakenly put our trust to someone wicked.
2009/05/08
Interruption...
well well...long time didn't update my blog, got internet problem and then now the router problem...sign...what can do...well will coming back soon though...
2009/04/25
Myself-part 2
After primary school we will continue ti the secondary school, before entering the secondary school compound, those scary imaginations of very strict teacher, bully, etc...as told by the seniors previously all bump into my mind...hmm...i guess thats just the scared most of us have when we move in to the new environment, no matter in school or work place...
While waiting for the UPSR result all of my friends very worried with their result, well i guess they are not worrying about pass r not but more to how many A's will they get, sign...only me the one that take things lightly and play football morning and evening, hahaha...quite enjoying those time though...
Finally, the day of announcing the result had come, guess what i can't sleep the night before, i guess i'm nervous as well hahaha...When i walk into the school and try to see my result and i was shocked when i saw my result, i got a total of 6 A's for the UPSR exam, hahaha...i was overjoy with excitement back then and i rush to my teacher, she is the teacher that teach me Chinese language and she gave me and friends that get A's for her paper, and i'm be able to get a newest mountain bike that have 7-gears(at that time the bike was the latest)it seem good things happened not just one hahaha...At that time all my friends ask " Hey what you ate, or you knock your head?how come your result like that one..." beats me, i also don't know why hahahah....
While waiting for the UPSR result all of my friends very worried with their result, well i guess they are not worrying about pass r not but more to how many A's will they get, sign...only me the one that take things lightly and play football morning and evening, hahaha...quite enjoying those time though...
Finally, the day of announcing the result had come, guess what i can't sleep the night before, i guess i'm nervous as well hahaha...When i walk into the school and try to see my result and i was shocked when i saw my result, i got a total of 6 A's for the UPSR exam, hahaha...i was overjoy with excitement back then and i rush to my teacher, she is the teacher that teach me Chinese language and she gave me and friends that get A's for her paper, and i'm be able to get a newest mountain bike that have 7-gears(at that time the bike was the latest)it seem good things happened not just one hahaha...At that time all my friends ask " Hey what you ate, or you knock your head?how come your result like that one..." beats me, i also don't know why hahahah....
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